In these posts, Sam Buti discusses some lessons learned about bereavement, the loss of his mom, and how to better navigate the temporality of life. Most of all, whether the bereaved is you or a loved, there’s help…
Elderly Parent Dating Concerns: What My Dad’s Love Life Taught Me About Listening A year after my mom died, my dad started dating. When his courtship started, he was 74. His girlfriend was 61. He’s a retired homeowner. His girlfriend’s an unemployed card dealer. He’s in-love. She’s…homeless. And then she moved in with him. It […]
Lessons from Grief: What My Mother’s Death Helped Me Understand About Living Just over two years ago, my mom died. Hard to believe it’s been that long. If you’d like, you can read more about it here. And yet, on the anniversary of her passing, I found myself feeling…good. Though odd, this seemed positive. Acceptance, […]
The tree of life and a dream about death Straddling the ridge of the roof, my dad stretched to cut the top of a dead tree with a saw. I was on the ground, holding the ends of a rope looped around the trunk. Once cut, I was to pull the tree away from the […]
Sons and Mothers And here now is a twist to the October Personas Project: it was, in more ways than one, about my mother. Save the few sports, school, or recent photos, my mom was often the one behind the lens, snapping thousands of candid pictures. But pictures weren’t her only medium. My mom was […]
The meaning of life and death of a parent My mother died in February. The simple, clichéd truth is that the death of a parent changes your life. It’s not that everything changes exactly — many things stay the same — but rather that one’s experience of everything is altered. In losing a parent, the […]