There’s a gap in your perception. And the reality is, you likely exist somewhere between who you hope to be, who you fear you are, and who you actually are. We’re all like this—to some degree. Psychologists call these our possible selves: who we hope to become, who we fear becoming, and the other versions of us we carry around in our heads (Markus & Nurius, 1986). If noticed, we can use them to our advantage. But the best news? None of them is absolute. And none of them is entirely real. Possible selves, three main versions At one end, there’s the person you hope to be. This is who…